You must have heard several times that sex on first date is not a good idea, but as much as it is said, you can hardly point to a concrete fact to base your reasons. This article in brief will articulate
reasons why taking your clothes off
on a first date is a "NO NO".
If you ask any woman, she will tell you that the reason you shouldn't have sex on a first date is that the guy won't call you back because he'll think you are easy and will have lost interest.
That might or might not be true. But having in mind that every situation is different, and that there may come a time when you are out with someone and everything feels so right very early on, and you could still put your partner on hold because that will even keep him or her in suspense and pondering "am I not good enough"
Here are some reasons sex on a first date is a bad idea:
How can you enjoy your delicious appetisers, after you have already eaten the heavy meal? Anticipation has been shoved away in favour of immediate pleasure in our quick-fix society. Waiting a little longer before having sex in a romantic relationship is important because it gives you something to look forward to. If you enjoy the main prize of sex on a first date, you’re starting the process back to front. It’s quite an anticlimax to get to know each other after you’ve already had sex.
Men and women who are strong enough to hold out and wait for the right time to go to bed with someone are exhibiting more self-control, they are thinking more clearly and objectively, and they have a certain self-assurance, like they aren't desperate, having the need to validate the relationship with sex. Waiting is mature, confident and self-respect.
Not only does anticipation go AWOL after you have sex on the first date, but chances are your interest will take a dive, too. You might not even feel the need to get to know her once you’ve had sex, and so gone is the interest in trying to see if you’d work as a couple. If you press pause on sex for a while, you give yourself a chance to get to know her when lust is not clouding your vision. Then sex becomes the reward for keeping that interest burning.
Sex is important in a relationship, there’s no doubt about it, but making a slow transition into sex will have the result of an even more mind-blowing experience when the full act does happen. By then, you’ll know if you’re connected with each other, you can define the chemistry and sex can become something to enjoy that cements your relationship even more. So, if she’s a woman you’d like to call your soul mate in the near future, wait a little longer for sex, my friend it pays!
by Nuhu SI
on a first date is a "NO NO".
If you ask any woman, she will tell you that the reason you shouldn't have sex on a first date is that the guy won't call you back because he'll think you are easy and will have lost interest.
That might or might not be true. But having in mind that every situation is different, and that there may come a time when you are out with someone and everything feels so right very early on, and you could still put your partner on hold because that will even keep him or her in suspense and pondering "am I not good enough"
Here are some reasons sex on a first date is a bad idea:
How can you enjoy your delicious appetisers, after you have already eaten the heavy meal? Anticipation has been shoved away in favour of immediate pleasure in our quick-fix society. Waiting a little longer before having sex in a romantic relationship is important because it gives you something to look forward to. If you enjoy the main prize of sex on a first date, you’re starting the process back to front. It’s quite an anticlimax to get to know each other after you’ve already had sex.
Men and women who are strong enough to hold out and wait for the right time to go to bed with someone are exhibiting more self-control, they are thinking more clearly and objectively, and they have a certain self-assurance, like they aren't desperate, having the need to validate the relationship with sex. Waiting is mature, confident and self-respect.
Not only does anticipation go AWOL after you have sex on the first date, but chances are your interest will take a dive, too. You might not even feel the need to get to know her once you’ve had sex, and so gone is the interest in trying to see if you’d work as a couple. If you press pause on sex for a while, you give yourself a chance to get to know her when lust is not clouding your vision. Then sex becomes the reward for keeping that interest burning.
Sex is important in a relationship, there’s no doubt about it, but making a slow transition into sex will have the result of an even more mind-blowing experience when the full act does happen. By then, you’ll know if you’re connected with each other, you can define the chemistry and sex can become something to enjoy that cements your relationship even more. So, if she’s a woman you’d like to call your soul mate in the near future, wait a little longer for sex, my friend it pays!
by Nuhu SI
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